This week: Thoughts and Language.
You’re never going to get away from what food you eat and the exercise you do results in what you weigh, but most people make their decisions harder by using ineffective language and self talk. Here’s some examples, have you ever caught yourself saying any of these?
1. I’m no good at losing weight.
2. I’m addicted to chocolate.
3. I always pile back on the pounds.
You may be asking what's ineffective about these? Well here’s the simple science to explain. Whatever you say to yourself your brain goes away to find evidence and proof. Your brain is ultimately a yes machine, when you say, ‘I’m no good’ your head can tell you a million reasons why that should be true and deliver them with emotions which drive either positive or negative actions. Ultimately the statement or question you ask drives the evidence which you receive.
Lets take statement 1. I'm no good at losing weight. When you say this your brain has to find evidence which matches e.g. how many times you've tried, how many times you've fallen off the wagon etc. All this 'evidence' then reinforces the view that you're no good but your brain only found that evidence because that's what you asked it for.
So what do you do?
Simple technique to losing weight 1:
Focus on what you do want, not what you don’t.
To give you an idea of what I mean I’ll change the points I mentioned above into powerful statements. This way your brain can find evidence which helps you rather than hinders, here’s my suggestions:
1. Each day I’m getting better at losing weight.
2. I choose what I eat and I choose to be healthy.
3. If each day I live a balanced diet I will always be in control of my weight.
Say these statements to yourself 3 times and see the difference it makes to how you feel. Do you feel better?
What you need to do: Make this part of your routine. Catch yourself saying those negative statements which focus on what you don’t want, listen and then change them. Ask yourself what is it that I do want and say that instead.
Have a go and if you’re struggling and would like help changing your negative statements into positive ones contact me, always here to help.
Until next time
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