If you are feeling overwhelmed, pressured, lost, drained or just full of negative thoughts....this is for you. It's the month of love so I'm going to give you 3 reasons why you should fall in love with your unconscious mind.
This part of your mind is the most amazing tool, lets have some fun and teach you how to use it.
What your unconscious mind is not......
Before we start I want to dispel a few myths. So many people are afraid of their unconscious and what it might 'do'. They don't want to go there in case it opens pandora's box or does something they 'can't reverse'. So lets just get a few things straight.
1) Your unconscious is yours and it's number one role is to keep you safe. It will always continue to do that.
2) Your unconscious is where your beliefs and values are held so anything which goes against those isn't going to be entertained.
3) You control your mind, it's up to you what you do, where you go etc. If something is too big, you can break it down or just not even go there, it's always your choice.
4) Your unconscious is like a small child, it can be mischievous at times, it likes lots of praise and support, it's not malicious or unkind.
5) You do it already!! You already access this type of thinking every day, when you're day-dreaming, driving the car, reading a book, watching TV, sitting on the toilet etc etc.......
Ok with that put to bed lets move onto the wonderful things your unconscious mind can do.
3 reasons why you should love your unconscious
Lets dive straight in.....
1) It holds all the answers: Your unconscious mind is like a massive library of everything you've ever experienced, learnt, believed etc....it has so much information and you can access it. When you sit and slow your brainwaves down, ease and slow.....you throw open the doors and if you listen it will give you the answer to your questions......eg. Where are my keys, why am I feeling annoyed, what's the right thing for me to do etc. You have the wealth of power at your fingertips, if you'd just sit down, be quiet and listen.
2) It's creative and fun: Your unconscious mind is where your creativity and imagination are, if you allow it, you can have some real fun. So often this gift is trained out of us, as a child we had the ability to laterally think, to invent and imagine. What would you give to unleash that fun spirit again?? How many great ideas could you create, if you let yourself? Sometimes it's not about being in the box, it's about showing yourself you can enjoy jumping out of it.
3) It calms the fight or flight response: With our busy lives and hectic schedules we are constantly living in our fight or flight response (I shared a video explaining this here.) During this we aren't healing, we aren't digesting and our hormones are all over the place. The outcome of too much of this can be anxiety and stress. Unconscious thinking calms and switches off our fight or flight response.
The benefits of slowing down have been well documented in research studies and with mindfulness and meditation on the rise it's great to hear that the message is being heard. Your unconscious mind is estimated to be 30,000 time more powerful than conscious thinking. Just imagine what amazing things you could have access to.
Don't know how to access your unconscious?
If you would like to have a go at unconscious thinking but don't know where to start I've created a little 10 minute audio which you can download. Just find somewhere peaceful, sit back and listen. Once you've got the hang of what it feels like, you'll start to fall in love with how amazing your unconscious mind can be.
I hope that has given you a new found excitement and interest into the power of your unconscious mind and it's potential. If you would like help with your mindset and overcoming nerves, overwhelm or other issues I'm always happy to help.
Until next time
I don't know about you but as a fellow small business owner in the past I've found getting the balance right between the time spent working, the money I need to earn and my own wellbeing a constant juggling act. My time to enjoy, go running, play the piano, go to the spa was always squeezed out of my schedule by 'more important' stuff like meetings, social media and networking.
I had a belief for years that the harder you work the more successful you'll be but I quickly found this to be a belief which leads to not feeling so well. My constant pushing, demanding more and more from myself led to a series of health issues, some small, some not so small. I, like so many, left it way too long before listening to my unconscious (that inner sense of truth) and taking steps to nurture and prioritise my wellbeing. I'm glad to say these days my wellbeing is a lot higher on my priority list
But.....why do we wait so long before realising our physical and mental health and wellbeing is a priority?
Perhaps, like many, you're just busy getting on with things and don't even realise your wellbeing isn't in tip top condition? So to help below are my 42 signs of stress. I challenge you to question how you're currently measuring up against these.
It's ok if you didn't realise your wellbeing wasn't great till now, self-reflection is a hard thing to do. Its always easier to see everyone else's world rather than your own. This is one reason I recommend regularly checking in with how you feel, it can make a significant difference.
How your unconscious can hold the solution
As small business owners we are often the worst at putting themselves on the priority list, never mind anywhere near the top. We're so passionate about what we do we rarely stop. We tell ourselves we love it, that it will all be worth it and that we can cope but who are we actually kidding?? As humans we just don't work that way.
So today, I challenge you.....what do you do to make your wellbeing a priority? Do you check in regularly with your unconscious to listen to your body and mind before or after you start experiencing symptoms? Do you say, 'oh I know, I've done to much' after getting the cold or before??
Regular quiet time can allow you to reconnect to how you feel and give your unconsious time to let you know what's going on. Have you ever noticed how a holiday away or a walk in nature can give you clearer perspective?
And, it doesn't even have to take long. Just 10 minutes a day can make a huge impact.
Come on, we're talking about your wellbeing!!! We're talking about your ability to actually be able to do your job....if that isn't a priority I don't know what it.
I've created a wonderful 10 minute audio which you can download for free. It can give you that time to just settle, connect to your unconscious and it can make a whole world of difference. Type your details in below and I'll email it over to you.
I can't tell you the impact realising that my wellbeing was important has had on my energy, determination and motivation. It's still a constant juggling act to get the balance right but at least now I don't feel guilty for taking some me time.
Until next time
What holds you back from getting the most from your time and yourself? Are you plagued by lack of energy? Do you have constant distracting thoughts? Perhaps you wish you had more creative ideas or more motivation? What if I told you that your unconscious was the key to unlock all of the answers to these frustrations and readdress your understanding so you can become more efficient?
Your unconscious is an amazingly powerful tool, if you don't know anything about it, I wrote a blog which explains how it works. What I find from my work with clients is that most people aren't using their unconscious potential and as a result struggle and hold themselves back.
Your levels of energy, creative ideas, clarity, motivation and peace of mind all have an impact on how much you actually get done and how easily you do them.
Tim Kreider wrote in The New York Times, 'The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration - it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done."
So lets explore how you can harness your unconscious potential and improve your efficiency.
How does your unconscious impact your efficiency?
Your unconscious mind holds information about everything you've experienced, learnt and believe. It's estimated that it drives up to 80% of our behaviours and actions. Your unconscious often has a greater level of understanding than you're consciously aware of.
Lets give you an example.....have you ever had the logic, illogic debate with yourself eg logically I know this should be ok but that doesn't seem to change the fact I don't feel comfortable or are still sat there not doing it? Yep, this is a great example of a conscious vs unconscious battle. You're consciously saying it's fine but unconsciously there's something else going on.
Connecting with your unconscious could actually tell you what's behind the behaviour and even come up with some lightning strikes of inspiration to help you change it. Amazing stuff eh!!!
Your unconscious doesn't work on logic and sense, it works on creativity, imagination and randomness. If you want to harness your best ideas, increase the amount of time you spend unconsciously thinking.
This quote from Einstein says it beautifully.
How to practise unconsciously thinking
Most people haven't practised this art for many years so it can take a little getting used to. First reframe your belief that sitting down for a few minutes is being idle. It's not, it's powering the unconscious to make connections you didn't even know were there so you can maximise your efficiency.
Teaching people unconscious thinking is an integral part of what I do so I'd like to give you an opportunity to give it a go. Click below and download my 10 minute Rest and Refresh audio, it's designed to gently ease you into the slower brain waves which the unconscious loves and top up your good stuff too. It's a great way to enter into this practise and it can have amazing benefits not just on your efficiency but also on your confidence and overall mental wellbeing too. I advise listening to it every morning.
That's it for this week. I hope you've enjoyed finding out more about your unconscious and how it can help.
Until next time
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Sincere apologies for the spelling of 'minds' in the title at the start of this video, I'm now off to listen to the audio I share with you below!!!
In 2009 I was introduced to an understanding and connection which changed my life, it not only vastly improved my health but also turned around how I handle all of my frustrations in life too, I suddenly knew how to find the answers to all that held me back and frustrated me so much.
Prior to this I was a stress head, so much so I made myself very sick. Everything felt like pressure, life annoyed me, people annoyed me.......I needed to jostle with life and beat it into my submission. I took on way too much, pushed myself way too far and generally felt that everything was my responsibility and my fault.
People who meet me now often comment on how calming I am and my sunny disposition...the difference is remarkable......so what changed??
It all started with understanding the unconscious mind so I'm going to share an introduction with you today so you can understanding this marvellous connection too.
An introduction to the unconscious mind
I'm going to talk you through the diagram below. Since this is an introduction, I'm going to keep it simple.
There are two parts to our minds, the conscious and unconscious and each works in a different way.
Lets start with the one you are probably most familiar with, the conscious. This part of your brain is firing on all cylinders for most of your waking hours. Here's the three functions I'd like to focus on today:
- handles between 5-9 pieces of information (the average human remembers 7)
- for anything which requires conscious thinking it makes the ultimate decision, I call it your filter set
- it works on fast brainwaves which is what you use when you're fully awake.
Ok so lets compare this to your unconscious which I describe like a massive library which stores everything you've ever experienced, learnt, believed etc. Your unconscious:
- has endless amounts of storage and holds lots and lots of information.
- finds the evidence which matches anything you ask for, ultimately it's a 'Yes' machine.
- works on slow brainwaves which is what you use when you're daydreaming or resting.
Why is connecting with your unconscious so useful?
We live in busy times, constantly distracted by phones, meetings, to-do lists etc. We are effectively always consciously thinking, pushing those 5-9 slots to their max all the time.
So what does the unconscious do? It's said that a whopping 80% of what we do is unconsciously driven, it's habit, programmes and patterns which you've created from your experiences and learnings. But, when do you ever listen to what it has to say, what if I told you you could access those, spring clean and even update them? How helpful would that be?
And when do you give your unconscious time to process all the things you experience each day? When do you allow your unconscious to connect those dots and give you it's amazing insights?
If you just gave it chance your unconscious could reveal so much and support you in a deeper level of understanding which could revolutionise your life. I'm not even kidding cause that's precisely what took me from stress head to smiling, sunny disposition, calm me.
How do you connect to your unconscious mind?
Unconscious thinking isn't logical or ordered its creative, colourful and random. It's about giving yourself time to let those thoughts go, giving yourself quiet time to think and the more you do it the better that connection to your unconscious becomes.
At first it may seem chaos and like it will never shut up. Remember you haven't been listening for years, it probably has a lot to say but stick with in and that ability to access all that understanding and knowledge will serve you greatly.
Helping clients access this powerful tool is an integral part of what Refreshed Minds does, if you aren't sure or need some help to get there, click here and get in touch.
I've also created a 10 minute audio to help you, as sometimes when you start out it's easier to just sit back and listen. If you feel that would help you click below and I'll get that straight over to your Facebook messenger so you can start listening now.
Remember your unconscious mind is an amazing and wonderful tool which you rarely access the potential of. Imagine what you could do if you understood it better.
Until next time
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