But can it really make a difference if you stroll across an urban city or stroll in a forest? Scientists say so.....here's a really interesting blog sharing the findings from research into the effects nature has on our wellbeing. The impacts are staggering, they've proven that nature can make us kinder, happier and more creative. If you want to read all the findings the full blog is here.
Fuelled with this knowledge, but quite coincidentally I met an amazing person called Hayley Gillard who runs a company called Wild Goose. Her company is based in West Yorkshire and they use nature to help with Mental Wellbeing and oh my I was so inspired.
But first we needed cake and tea haha, (always how a productive meeting starts in my opinion.)
What I learnt was that Hayley's principles when it comes to mental wellbeing couldn't resonate more with mine. Fun, creative, explorative and powerful.....from Campfire Conversations for the Anxious to Barefoot Club and 1 day Retreats. I just felt so many people would benefit from what she has to offer so I had to share it with you.
I'm sure combining Hayley's outside wellbeing with my specific strategies and techniques would be an amazing recovery combination. You can be sure Hayley and I will be continuing to talk, you never know where it may lead (and no it isn't just an excuse to eat more cake!!!) If you'd like to know more about Wild Goose their website it here. You can also follow her on Facebook and Twitter if you'd like.
So if you are feeling like you've been hibernating, feel grumpy or overwhelmed, if you want to blow the cobwebs away from those dark nights and cold winter months get out there and experience some nature over the bank holiday weekend. It can do you the world of good.
If you'd like to know more about my specific techniques for building self confidence, have a watch of my free video series. You can access it by clicking the green box on the right.
Have a lovely Easter everyone, I'm off to dig out my walking boots.
This got me thinking who steals your confidence?
Suspect 1 - It was Nature:
Maybe some people are born with confidence and some people are not. The problem with this is science has proven that this isn't the case. Although some people are born with personality types which are more susceptible to confidence problems you are neither born with or without confidence, it's something which is created over time.
Suspect 2 - Experience stole it:
Over the years experiences have shaped the way you understand the world and when something triggers a particular part of your evidence library you react by losing confidence. Now this to me sounds more likely. If you want to know more about your Evidence library there's a whole video about it in my free Video series click on the green box on the right to access it.
Suspect 3 - It was you:
I don't know about you but I can be my own worst enemy, once that little confidence issue creeps in my Mr Niggles has a field day and it comes up with some awful things. (I wrote more about Mr Niggles in this blog). Some of my personal favourites are: 'I can't do this', 'I'm not good enough', 'why do you even bother', I know lovely aren't they!!! So, maybe we are the ones who steal our own confidence?
Personally I think suspect two and three are working in cahoots. Your experience lays down the groundwork and then your head sticks in the knife. Then bam....down goes the confidence. And if the job is done really well in creeps the fear so we never have to experience it again.
I love teaching people how to overcome this vicious cycle by giving them a toolbox of techniques to spring clean the library and tackle that inner voice. Techniques which I use throughout my life and have helped me to say yes, instead of an immediate no.
What are your thoughts? Who steels your confidence and have you got any pearls of wisdom which you can share? I'd love to hear them.
Until next time
Ever been halfway through a packet of biscuits before realising you've eaten them? Oh good, so it’s not just me then. Interestingly this is actually normal brain functioning and I can explain exactly why this happens and what you can do to change it.
It’s all to do with the relationship between our conscious and unconscious.
Research in the 1950s showed that our conscious brain can only handle between 5 and 9 pieces of information and the average for a human being is only 7. For everything else we rely on our unconscious brain.
Imagine how many pieces of information you're taking in right now? Our conscious focuses on the 5-9 'most important' things. The unconscious is responsible for everything else.
To make this easier our unconscious brain creates patterns and processes for each thing, for example how we walk, talk, drive, or even use a knife and fork. Our unconscious learns to associate a certain action or ‘trigger’, with a pattern of behaviours which then run in order. So you do A and it knows then to do B, C, D and E. The pattern rolls out without you needing to think about it. It has to happen this way, because of the sheer amount of things us humans need to do in any one given moment.
How these patterns are formed?
Patterns are formed mostly through learnt repetition, you do something a certain way over and over and over and soon it becomes a habit. An encoded pattern, which then runs without you having to think consiousy, effectively your head is saying, ‘I know how to do this leave it up to me.’ Patterns can also form without repetition if it's something which was so big the first time e.g. if you burnt yourself badly on a fire the likelihood is you wouldn't have to do it again and again to create a habit which said this is how we behave around fires.
So what's happening with the biscuits?
Your brain is running an instilled pattern. This pattern had a trigger, that moment you became unaware of your actions, maybe it was you entering a room, the touch of the door handle, the feeling of coming home from work….. it will be associated to one of your senses, you touched something, smelt something, heard something etc.
Then your brain unconsciously ran the programme and you only consciously became aware of your actions again when you were halfway through the packet. Clever stuff that brain of yours, isn’t it.
So what if you want to change it?
There are numerous ways to change these patterns, the secret is finding a way which works for you. Here are 4 examples my clients have tried and found worked for them. Try them and see what works for you:
So sorry, but your biscuit habit is completely normal brain function but you don't have to put up with it. Hope these four ideas gave you some things to try.
If you'd like to know more about conscious versus unconscious thinking I talk more about it in the second video of my the free video series, if you'd like to have a watch click the green box on the right.
I hope you’ve found that fascinating. Go and try some of these tips and let me know how you get on.
Always happy to help