Nothing gets my passion firing like someone who has lost faith in their own self. I just want to stand them back up, dust them off and point them in the right direction so if you need a little pick me up, need a little inspiration to help you ditch the self-doubt or just need a smile today.......read on!!
This week I've compiled 10 quotes from around the internet to give you a little boost and show you it's ok to be you. These images are not mine and I take no credit, I just liked what they said and felt you should hear it. I hope they make you feel good.........
What's your favourite? Mine is the Umbrella one, it had me in stitches for a while.
Do you want more than quotes? If quotes alone are just not hitting the spot and you'd like more structured and practical tools to boost your confidence, check out my free video series. I designed these 3 free videos to help you understand more about how and why you think the way you do and share some practical tips and tools to help you feel good. Just my way of giving back and offering something of value.
If you've enjoyed these quotes and want more head over to my It's Ok To Be You and Confidence and Fear Tips Pinterest boards.
Until next time.
These tips have been tried and tested by many of my clients over 5 years and also by me personally (cause sometimes we all have a wobble). Sometimes the simplest things can make all the difference.
Here's my 10 Proven ways to conquer those nerves:
1) Choose your networking group - With so many different ones available you don't have to throw yourself in the deep end. Go to a small or informal group to get started. Some you don't even do a 60 seconds, just grab a drink and say hi to someone.....which leads me to my next point...........
2) Everyone is on your side - Every single person in that room was once a newbie so they know exactly how you feel. Everyone is there for the same reason and actually people are expecting you to randomly say hi to someone, its Networking thats what everyone does.
3) Start the conversation by talking about them - Take the pressure off you, start the conversation by asking about them but the trick here is to really listen to the answer and start a real conversation.
4) The run up - It's important to get the run up right, if you focus on how awful an experience it will be that's exactly what you'll experience. Turn your thoughts to the good things, the opportunity to chat to interesting people, a delicious lunch ;) Maybe visit the venue so you know where you're going. Do everything you can to make the run up calm, exciting and you're more likely to feel calmer and more excited.
5) Breath - If you feel your pulse start to race take some deep relaxing breaths and focus on just breathing. That's it, just your breathing, in and out. This sends a message to your brain to say you're calm and will bring your pulse under control.
6) Prepare - If you do need to say something to introduce your business, prepare what you're going to say. Think about what you'd like to know about someone else's business and that's the info you need to say about yours (or maybe take a friend and introduce each other, its far easier to introduce someone else!!)
7) Find out the details - Ask the organiser for details, how many people usually come, how does the format work, what are you expected to wear, what do people usually talk about etc. There's nothing worse than walking in and being the odd one out. Finding out the details can help you prepare and feel comfortable that you know what to expect.
8) It takes time - My first networking meeting was far from perfect, I didn't say everything I wanted to say, it takes time. I've been perfecting my patter at networking meetings for years now, it sounds awesome and natural but it didn't start that way!!!!! Very few people in that room did. It takes practise you have to do it over and over and over.
9) Mistakes are ok - I haven't been to a networking meeting yet where someone new has been laughed at, or called out because they messed up, NEVER......not even once. Everyone is so supportive and right behind you every step of the way so if you mess up it's absolutely ok, take a breath, smile and carry on!!!!
10) Go for it - Often the idea is much worse than the reality. Our brains can create monsters where there aren't any. Sometimes we're better off not thinking, not wondering, just book one and go for it.
I hope you find these useful, give them a go and see how you do. If you'd like some more support download my free video series, it will give you an even better understanding of how your brain works and how to help it do what you want. Access it by clicking on the green box on the right.
If you have some tips which I haven't included here, feel free to share them in the comments box below I'd love to hear them.
Until next time
This is my Refreshed Minds logo and for a long time I felt like that lime. Feeling that inside I was refreshing and bright but actually living life trapped in a block of ice, feeling frustrated and like I wasn’t good enough.
For over 10 years I worked for large corporate companies, I’ve had good and bad times but in 2011 I finally got frustrated with living to someone else’s ideas. I was disheartened by the constant striving for targets that felt forever out of reach, justifying my existence, re-applying for my job and seeing my friends made redundant. I met some amazing people, talented, inspiring and hard working people, many of whom are still my friends today but that corporate ice cube rarely let them feel refreshed and bright, they just said that’s great and then pushed for more and more.
My own life also built up some of my ice cube. I would constantly berate myself for things I hadn’t achieved and all the shoulds and shouldn’ts which you believe are true. ‘I should be successful by now’, ‘I should try harder’, ‘I’m letting people down’, ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I can’t do it’…………
On the surface I could be smiling, happy and confident me but behind the scenes I’d made myself very ill.
It was then that life changed.
I was introduced to NLP and Hypnotherapy. The more I learnt about how and why we do what we do the more I wanted to know. I studied and qualified in both whilst still doing my full time job. I was also devouring books on the topics whenever I could get my hands on them. When I started using the techniques in my life I was hooked. Why???? Because the difference was life changing and I’m not exadurating. The ice cube was finally melting and I was allowed to be refreshed and bright, it felt amazing.
But keeping these amazing techniques to myself was never going to fit with me. One of the things I’d learnt about myself is that my biggest value is ‘making a difference’. To see I’ve made a difference is what motivates me, lifts my spirit and makes me smile.
In the corporate world I just didn’t see how I made a difference, it didn’t fit my biggest value, no wonder I felt trapped. So I took the leap of faith and set up Refreshed Minds.
So what’s Refreshed Minds mission?
"To melt as many people’s ice cubes as I can!! To show you, ‘you can’ rather than ‘you can’t’ and to teach you how to do it using the very best of skills and tools I’ve learnt along the way. You deserve to live life feeling refreshed and bright, Refreshed Minds is here to show you how."
So what have been my biggest learnings so far? I thought I’d share my top 3.
1. Your mind is incredibly clever and whether you like it or not it will always do what it thinks is best for you. It will give you flu to make you rest, give you a fear to try and keep you safe, it will even put on weight to comfort you. You are never stupid!!
2. Language is more powerful than you give it credit for – whatever you tell your mind, it will find evidence to support. If you tell yourself for years that you’re no good, you’ll be and feel no good.
3. Change is easier than you think. It doesn’t have to be a long drawn out affair. Sometimes the simplest of things can make a massive difference.
So whether your ice cube is self created with doubts, fear and harsh words or it was created by living in a world which didn’t match who you are, I wanna help!!
What do I help people with:
I've successfully helped people (and companies) with:
Until next week