Today I have a question for you....why is it human nature to critisise and pressure ourselves so much? I swear nobody could possibly be a bigger critic than ourselves and what's more concerning is the level of impact this can have is massive and I do mean uba-massive.
So many of my weight loss clients have convinced themselves that they're rubbish at losing weight and instead are at the mercy of an uncontrollable inner self that sabotages their every attempt. They're trapped with all the old evidence of past successes and failures along with our super healthy culture which seems to have exploded lately to a point where you feel a failure if you have a single slice of cheesecake.
They're all desperately trying to get to 'that' goal (which is usually unbelievably big) and they're fighting the whole way mostly feeling it's exhaustingly hard work. An averlanche of shoulds, shouldn't and guilt erode any will power and motivation they once managed to muster and they end up convinced it's just too difficult, can't do it or might as well just get used to the fact they're fat. Sound in any way familiar?
Well I bet that does wonders for their self esteem and leds itself beautifully to raiding the fridge for something to make them feel better. What's more I can probably guarantee that won't be a piece of fruit!
So what's the answer?
Another question for you: why don't we natually go for the low hanging fruit? The easy stuff which wouldn't be too much of a big deal to change? We all know the little stuff adds up the a mountain so why not concentrate on that and eventually you'll get there without the emotional hard battle of wills. To start with you'd lose a few pounts, which would boost your mood and give your brain the evidence that you can do it. Then you're more likely to start the snowball effect, a few more good decisions and a few more etc. So why not be nice to yourself for a change?
Take each decision as just that, one easy decision and sod the bigger picture, high pressure, 1000 reasons why it won't work, hard work attitude. It's just one little decision at a time and I'm sure you could do that.
I dare you to take the challenge, what are the little things which you could do and start doing them one easy decision at a time.
Go on be nice to yourself and good luck losing those pounds.