Does your imagination impact your feelings? Are your fears real or imagined? Today I discuss the power of your imagination and ask.....do you (like so many others) use it to create evil or to generate good? And, how can you use it better??
I've always been fascinated by the mind and like to learn more about how and why we do things. My friend gave me a book by Helen Graham (The Magic Shop) which talks about Imagination and Healing. It's been a real fascinating read and my treatment rooms I've often been surprised by the amazing impact people's imaginations can have. I really think we don't give our imagination enough credit in western society.
Many people I speak too see their imagination as childish and something which they were told to grow out of and were told over and over to 'grow up'. Some of my other friends are artistic, creative types who love nothing more than diving into their imagination and harnessing the best it can create.......but what impact does our imagination have on our confidence?
Does your Imagination have an Impact on Your Confidence?
Your imagination can really be your best friend or your worst enemy. The roots of self-doubt and niggling feelings of worthlessness often stem from fear, which is your imagination's perception of what could/may happen.
The result of this imaginative process is often the phrase, 'I can't do it!!'. But really it's just your interpretation of the situation. Let me explain......I'm sure you've experienced this.......within two seconds your brain goes from calm to 'oh my what if this, this or that happens,' with each thought adding another layer of terror. Each one taking you further until your a jittery, feeling low, 'oh my I can't do this' mess. Sound familiar??
I haven't met a single person yet who doesn't do this, its part of being human!!!! But those thoughts are a product of your imagination, of you thinking up things. And this kind of negative use of your imagination can really tear stripes off your confidence.
But there is another way and it's so powerful when I teach this technique to my clients, so that's exactly what I'm going to do for you today......read on.....you may be surprised at how simple it actually is!!!
How to harness the power of imagination for good.
If you can use your imagination for creating such vivid examples of what could and might go wrong (just like I mentioned above), you can equally use that same imagination to create what could go right. It would use the same process and be just as powerful, the only difference is where you put your focus.
So if you feel yourself slipping down that negative slope of doom say 'STOP' and ask yourself, 'what is it I do want in this situation' ask yourself that question over and over until your mind gets the idea and begins to flow in the right direction.
This may take practise, it's probably not something you've done before. You've spent years with those negative imaginative thought processes whizzing round your head. So every time a thought creeps in which isn't helpful say 'STOP' and refocus on what it is you do want.
After a while this will start a new much more beneficial habit and really support your confidence.
Here's some examples.......
1) I can't do it - STOP - what do I need to be able to do it?
2) I'm such a failure - STOP - tell me about all the times I've done well.
3) I might as well give up - STOP - I need a break, I'm being too hard on myself
4) She/he does it so much better than me - STOP - what can I learn to improve what I do.
I'm sure you think of a whole lot more than these!! It can sometimes be helpful to get a piece of paper, write out your thoughts and think about how you could change them similar to the ones above.
The negative process will never stop entirely!!! As humans we are designed with this instinctive negative bias so your brain won't stop weighing up the 'what ifs' of any situation but that doesn't mean you are at the mercy of your brain........you can decide and switch the focus.
The more often you do this switching exercise the easier it becomes but this is about mind management. You need to learn when this type of thinking is helpful and when it's eroding your confidence. And when it's the latter use this simple technique to refocus. I've been doing this for 5 years and although I am much better at spotting and switching these thoughts it still sometimes catches me out, you can't get away from human nature but you can manage it better.
Start now.....I promise this good habit will serve you well.
Until next time
PS. If you'd like more understanding of how your brain works have a watch of my free video series.
PPS. I'm always happy to help, if you'd like to share your experiences or ask me questions please comment in the box below.