You may have seen many quotes about getting out there and chasing your dreams, it seems to be on-trend right now. But are people in general settling for a life of ordinary instead of chasing their dreams? This week I share my beliefs around this and how the pressure and indecision can impact your confidence.
Firstly, I believe people do the best they know how and that people are all different. There are people who enjoy routine and the simplicity in life and there are others who like chasing dreams and adventure, neither is right or wrong - it's just different.
Confidence then comes when you're being your authentic self.
If you are a person who likes routine but feels like you should be out chasing dreams this causes a conflict. The same goes for the opposite, if you are a person who likes chasing dreams but you're made to follow a strict routine, it's also going to cause you an inner conflict which often leads to confidence wobbles.
People lose confidence for two reasons, your outer comparisons and your inner world I wrote all about this in this blog, it's worth taking a look if you want to know more about why so many people struggle with confidence issues.
You see the answer to this settle/chase dreams debate is more about who you are as a person and being honest with that rather than whether it's right or wrong to settle or chase dreams.
I believe the challenge is that people don't know themselves well enough to know if they're being their authentic self. Instead they try and live up to culture and other people's expectations. They look outward for the answers reviewing what others do, trying to understand what's normal and what is expected of them by others. They then base their decision on that which often leads to an inner conflict when this doesn't feel right for them.
Ask yourself honestly, do you like routine and a simple life or do you crave a life of adventure. Then ask yourself what are you doing right now? If the two don't line up chances are you'll be feeling a confidence wobble.
The simple answer:
If you are a person who likes routine and simple life - it's absolutely ok to do that and enjoy it.
If you are a person who likes adventure - it's absolutely ok to do that and enjoy it too.
Know yourself well enough to live authentically and be strong enough to tell others you're happy just as you are.
I hope this helps.