I hear so many people saying they have no will power or that their will power isn't strong enough. They're usually trying to change their habits and they're finding it hard work. This is one of the most common examples of using yourself badly and expecting good results.......today I'll explain why and what you can do to make those new choices easier.
Whatever 'new' behaviours or habits you're trying to implement this free article will help make those choices easier. Perhaps you're trying to introduce a new morning routine or make better food choices, maybe you're starting planning your time better or want to improve your exercise.....if you're using your will power to get you through, there's an easier way.
An introduction to Will Power
Your will power is designed as a short term system, a boost to make you do something you don't necessarily want to do. It's a quick burst or drive to get you through. It was never meant to be a long term strategy or have strength in the long term.
With this in mind it seems pretty crazy that we rely on this system to continue a new behaviour for weeks, sometimes months...and then we get frustrated with ourselves when our will power runs out.
Why do so many people think the solution is to find a way to drive a short term system harder? This isn't easy and is always going to leave you feeling drained, not good enough and like you've failed.
So if you're looking for more will power or a way to make your will power stronger......
There's a much easier way......
An introduction to Motivation
Motivation is our want or desire to do something. It's much deeper than our will power and a good motivation driver can keep people fuelled for years. Think about people who have decided to achieve something and have a genuine motivation to do it.....
These people have climbed mountains, build multimillion pound companies, taken themselves off around the world, set up successful charities, lost stones of weight etc etc.........
Motivation is a long term system which gives you fire in your belly and won't let you give up no matter how tough things appear to be.
Sounds good doesn't it
Where do I get myself some motivation?
If you're finding something hard you haven't yet tapped into your motivation. You still want that comfortable behaviour more than you want the new one. Your focus is on what you'll lose out on, what you can't have and what makes it difficult.
Here's the steps to find your motivation:
1) Why does it matter to you?
Your motivation lies in your why, your reason for wanting the new behaviour............
not the reason everyone else says has to why you should have it......but your reason.
Why does it matter to you?
People usually start with something like 'health' or 'to have more time' but find this doesn't motivate them enough to make the changes....this is because this isn't deep enough, it has no meaning to you and it doesn't have any power within you.
2) Dig deep to find the meaning
The best way to dig deeper is to ask yourself the question, 'and why is that important?'
Lets take health as an example, (it works the same no matter what you pick)......
Ask yourself, "and why is that important?"..........e.g. because I'll be able to run around after the kids.
And why is that important?........e.g. because I'll be a good parent, create memories
And why is that important..........
Keep going until things start to really mean something to you, it creates emotions, connects to you, makes you excited etc. The answers in there if you dig deep and be honest with yourself.
3) Associate the new behaviour with achieving your motivating outcome.
Now associate doing the new activity with the meaning you discovered in step 2. Continuing with our health example.....
Getting up each morning and going for a run (new behaviour) means......feeling like I'm a good parent.
4) Use your senses to really give it some oomph!!
What would you see, hear, feel, smell, taste etc.......in our example, if you were feeling like a good parent what would that be like, see yourself playing endlessly with the kids, smiling etc.
Now every time you want to do the new behaviour connect to those thoughts, images, sounds etc to remind yourself why it matters.
If this isn't drawing you to want to do the behaviour it isn't the right motivator, keep going until you find something which really gets you going.
When you find your motivation you no longer rely soley on will power, you do the behaviour/activity because you want to, not because you have to and this is so much stronger, easier and longer lasting.
Give it a try and If you can relate to what I have shared, I would love to help you more. My monthly Break Free, Find Clarity sessions are all about sharing practical tools your can implement. Each month has a different topic. If you'd like more information click the picture below.
Until next time.