60-80% of most people's time is spent on worries, concerns and thoughts that aren't in their control and aren't their fault. Are your wasted energy conversations stealing your peace?
Today I had a run planned to stir up those endorphins and bolster my affirmations however the wind was howling and it was throwing it down that fine rain that soaks you through so I opted for a swim instead. I’d got into a nice rhythm of affirmation with each arm stroke (not as easy to do as I thought) when I was distracted by a 'he said, she said' conversation of two woman swimming next to me, who I think were there more to chat under the excuse of exercise if I’m being honest.
Anyway this got me thinking about how much time we occupy ourselves with wasted energy conversations, you know…all the stuff that isn’t ours?
Their conversation went from the disgrace of our high schools expecting a friend of their daughters husband to break up a fight on her own to the terrible government in America who don’t support an aunty’s cousin with a sick child………you could see in their tone and body language they were getting more and more disappointed with the world, you could practically see their stress levels rising…….and for what???
None of this stuff impacted their day to day life in any way, shape or form. There was not a single thing they could do to change any of it……it was just wasted conversation that made them both get more annoyed.
I wonder how much you do the same?? What is it you’re worrying, concerned or thinking about?
Ask yourself, how much of that is yours to do something about? And how much is other people’s stuff or globallised problems you have no intention of making a stand against?
Here’s some examples from my experiences:
I often hear that people feel their heads are full, about to burst and they feel overwhelmed…..imagine how much space you could free up if you eradicated these wasted energy conversations from your life?
In my experience over 4 years with clients, whenever I’ve gone through this exercise they are often spending 60-80% of their time on things which aren’t in their control!!
If you flipped that around how much more productive could you be? What could you replace that space with??? Time to read? Time to use your affirmations? Time to breathe and relax? Time to enjoy laughing with friends????
Sounds much nicer and time better spent to me.
So I channeled out these two ladies and went back to appreciating the freedom I have to go swimming on a Friday morning, the gratitude for having a good healthy body and saying my affirmations, ‘I can achieve if I put my mind to it’. The outcome? I’ve completed half of my 'Do list' in record time and have a smile on my face.
It’s completely your choice but I know which one I would prefer.
Does this resonate with you? Do you find yourself getting dragged into wasted energy conversations or are you pretty good at channeling your focus? Let me know your thoughts in the comments box below, I always like to hear from you.
Happy Friday everyone.