Does everyone have voices in their heads?
YES......and it's completely normal!!!! Even more than that it's an important part of how we function.
Everybody has these internal battles with themselves and sometimes it's not just two 'parts' of you involved in the debate but 3 or 4. And yes these parts can be nasty, very nasty in fact........often they say things which you would never say out loud. (I think we've all had one or two of those kinds of thoughts.......)
Even the nasty ones?
These nasty thoughts are also normal!!! Your subconscious does not work with the same logic or reason that your conscious mind does. Your subconscious is often much more creative and imaginative. Equally that doesn't mean that the thoughts are like cartoons, sometimes they can feel very real.
I often find that people who are gifted with an amazing creative and/or visual ability have the power to conjure up some amazing things but thats not to say we don't all have the capability....we do, but some people just have talents which mean they can be amazingly good at it.
Why do we do it?
In my experience there's three reasons.
1) Gathering of evidence - Whenever we do something our subconscious gathers the evidence about that thing to help us make our decisions. It doesn't just gather some of the evidence, it gathers all of it. If you're weighing something up it will pull evidence not only from your life experience, but also what you've seen, heard and been told. It doesn't sieve out the good and bad, it just starts debating all of it.
2) Creative play - So much of our time is spent towing the line, being logical and doing as we're told our minds like to break free, be creative and be allowed to use it's amazing powers. This doesn't mean those thoughts are true, far from it....It's actually an amazing way of dealing with the pressure of life by breaking free for a while. Is also a great way of learning, sometimes throwing random things together helps us create a new answer. We do this naturally as kids. This creative play is us doing the same as an adult.
3) The feeling of safety - Our subconscious mind's number 1 purpose is to keep us 'safe'. That safety is derived from whatever your life evidence has built up. Our evidence tells us what we deem as 'safe' and our subconscious will help us adhere to that using it's very best of abilities. If you are a creative thinker chances are it will come up with lots of creative images which will absolutely make you never want to do 'whatever it is' again. Congratulations, it has effectively kept you 'safe'. Hoorah!!
But what happens when you want these thoughts to go away?.........
My top tips for stopping unwanted inner battles.
There are a few different things you can do but first you must understand this....
These thoughts are not real, they're just conjured up from our wealth of experience and wonderful imagination.
Once you truly accept the premise in bold above these top tips become a whole lot easier. Here's two of the ways you can stop these inner battles:
- Thought stopping - Next time a thought pops into your head, catch yourself doing it, say STOP and redirect your thinking to something else, then fully immerse yourself in the new thing. You may be surprised at how quickly your mind moves on.
- Accept and laugh - Sometimes it's good to let your head free and be intrigued about the wonderful, amazing, creative rubbish it creates. Once you become detached from it you can actually laugh at how unbelievably detailed and extreme it can be. I wrote a whole blog on this called Mr Niggles and the Daily Insults.
There are other ways you can handle these inner battles too but these are a great way to get you started. If these don't work for you and you'd like more help get in touch.
I hope that's helped and remember, you are an amazingly, gifted and talented being. Stop being scared about how amazing your mind can be, step back and you may even start to enjoy it.
Until next time