Today I've had a revelation and I think it will resonate with you, just like you I have a natural tendency to strive forwards, to aim for my dreams but lately I've been feeling under pressure and until today I hadn't connected the two. I know that having dreams is a really motivating thing but what happens when those dreams start to weigh you down?
Is constantly striving for your dreams weighing you down?
Like most days I started today writing down 10 things I was grateful for, I also have a little 'Thought per day' book too and today's question was where do you see yourself in 5 years (I've always hated that question) but it did get me thinking about my hopes and dreams......after day dreaming for a while it hit me........all .that pressure I'm feeling is self induced!!
Let me explain: It feels like I have a mountain in front of me, it feels massive, scary and like a hell of a lot of work. I think about everything I'd need to achieve it, all the skills, knowledge and resources, which I just don't have right now, and I feel overwhelmed, small and not good enough. Whats even more annoying is this analogy is one I use with my clients all the time.........I know this stuff and yet I still do it. Dam human nature!! ;)
But just because it's human nature doesn't mean we have to live with it, sometimes these small revelations can make a big difference.
How do you stop feeling overwhelmed by your dreams?
The good part is that because I know this stuff I also know what I need to do.....I need to reframe my perceptions, having dreams is great, really motivating and keeps me going but looking at them in a future reference (i.e. looking up at the mountain) and then constantly striving for them is wearing me out. I need to step back. I need a plan.
So today I'm going to get out the large paper and colourful pens and plot my journey, asking myself what resources, skills, knowledge and support I'll need along the way. Once my map is ready I'll then focus on the next few steps and know I'll feel a whole lot better.
What about you?
If you're like me and you've fallen into the trap of looking up at your own mountain, hoping the wishing you'll get there but feeling overwhelmed, small and not good enough I want you to know that you are normal!!!
Maybe for you it's the mountainous task of losing weight, or achieving a better career or buying a house or starting a business.......Whatever it is this strategy will also work for you. Get yourself a big sheet of paper and some coloured pens and once you've plotted the journey just focus on the next few steps. I promise you'll feel a whole lot better.
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