The true effect of Brexit
Today, right now, right this minute, what effect does it have on you????? The absolute truth in this moment, right here, right now is that nothing immediately has changed. You will still get out of bed, eat your breakfast and go to work......eat lunch.....do the dishes.........etc.....We still even trade with the same countries in the EU.......and it will take at least 2 years before that changes.
I know, I know this may be hard to take right now. We need time to take in the situation but don't let that overtake you with fear and anxiety. One simple thought can so often turn into a giant snowball of awfulness.
No amount of you trawling over the ifs, buts and maybes given your understanding of world trading and economics is going to help, the most likely outcome is it's just going to make you feel worse!!!
Our tendency to air towards catastrophe
With 5 times more negative receptors in our brains to each 1 positive one it is our natural human tendency to air towards the negative e.g. what are we going to lose, what is going to go wrong, what will be so awful that we just won't be able to stand.......never mind the EU decision this happens with everything we think about.
The truth is what ever circumstance you're working on is just as likely to have many good outcomes, new possibilities and opportunities, sure they'll probably be some downsides but often its no where near our 5-1 ratio we naturally perceive.
If we leave our brain unattended it will naturally amplify the negatives (the worries, fears etc) by 5 times!!! It's this that makes our confidence and calmness have a wobble.
How do I boost my confidence in times of uncertainty?
My biggest tip is to stand back and assess what is actually within your control? Can you physically do something about it?
- If the answer is yes, do it.
- If the answer is no....let it go because you could mull over it for the next 2 days and it won't have made diddly squat of difference. Only make yourself feel anxious and wound up.
When I do this activity with my clients every time we find that what's occupying their thoughts are 70-80% not in their control. There is absolutely nothing they can do about it yet it's occupying 3/4 of their brain!!!!
Here's how you do this activity:
This simple activity can get you back in control, lower anxiety and bring back a feeling of calm... Give it a go.
An important note of sense
This activity does not work if you're still seething about an event. If you've had an argument, just received some news or had an interaction which didn't go your way you need time to process, scream, shout and be angry.....there's nothing wrong with that.
Only after that has subsided do you do this activity!!!! Only then will you be able to get the benefit from it.
So no matter what is causing you to feel less confident your fears and anxiety will be driven by the possibilities of the unknown and our natural human nature to amplify the negatives. I've shared with you my simple activity to free up 3/4 of your brain space, imagine what you could do with that!!!
I hope you've found this useful and whether it's the uncertainties of Great Britain or a build up of expectations in your life, remember to be in the here and now, the future is unknown, confidence never blossoms when you hang your hat on uncertainties. Confidence grows when you finally become comfortable with 'it's ok to not have all the answers.'
Always happy to help
Until next time