Do you, like so many people, really want to make a change in your life but don't know where to start? Perhaps you feel too afraid to change and in that instant you make the decision to say no rather than say yes and then you wish you'd done the latter?
Well you are not alone, so many of my clients experience the same thoughts so I thought I'd share with you my 1 amazing technique that can change a habit and finally give you the kick you need to make that change. What's even more fantastic is you can start practicing this immediately.
My very simple and easy piece of advice would be to route out the truth.
Let me explain what I mean.....so I met one of my friends the other day and she was telling me that she doesn't like meeting new people. She distinctly remembered her father hating it too and even a particular time in her childhood which made her really scared. Nothing too bad, just that she saw her father's reaction and really felt scared in that moment.
Now, when an opportunity comes to meet someone new she feels an immediate reaction which often makes her decide to turn around and not put herself in that situation.
So I said 'how many times have you met new people in your life?', she said 'oh hundreds'.....' so I asked 'how many of those were enjoyable?', she answered 'most of them'......you see how when you route for the truth the two don't match.
So I said, 'ok so next time you're in a situation where you're going to meet someone remember that you've met new people hundreds of times and it's often enjoyable and interesting'. She sat for a moment taking that in and Immediately understood what a big a difference that would make. That one automatic reaction wasn't actually representative of the truth. It's an automatic thought she'd never questioned.
Questioning and finding the truth will make a huge difference to the decisions you make.
So instead of being driven by an automatic response it can be really powerful to route out the truth. Here's some example questions you can ask to get you started in finding that truth:
Then once you've decided your truth create a sentence which can remind you of that truth in that moment. Make it true and powerful for you. Then say it in that millisecond moment when you're making your decision. And as you say it, give yourself time to hear it........
This simple technique has the power to completely change your decision.
Have a go and give it some practise,
.......and if you'd like some help creating a powerful sentence comment below and let us help.
I hope that gives you something practical you can try out.