We all have them, that moment when something triggers a wobble in our confidence and in milliseconds our brain goes from 'Life is great' to 'Oh my I can't cope.' I had one today and it inspired me to share a Tool Kit with you. This Tool Kit has been tried and tested many times, not just by me but by the people I work with too......it works and I hope it gives you a proven strategy which you can use!!!
Let me set the scene........today I sat down to create a blog post, laptop ready and my brain was pondered over some ideas. After a short while, I was still staring at a blank screen and.....bam from nowhere I said to myself, 'I don't know why you're bothering'.......closely followed by, 'you might as well just give it up as a bad job.'
I have an incline you know where this story is going..........
So I took a breath and decided I needed distraction and some more inspiration so I started to look through some articles I'd saved for ideas......Then, bam my internal dialogue said, 'these are so much better than yours', 'you'll never be able to write like that anyway'.......it went on and on.....
within a few short minutes I was completely distracted, fighting an internal battle with myself and about to give it up.
That's when I decided to use my Tool Kit, here's what I did........
My tool kit for when Confidence Wobbles Strike
1) STOP: It's a great word and when said powerfully enough can halt internal processes just like that. I said it to myself strongly and firmly.
2) Breathing: I took a few deep breaths. This really allows me to calm down and then the rest of the tools become easier.
3) Language: I knew my internal dialogue was only leading me to one outcome and I didn't want to go there so I stopped those too. Any which crept in, I chose not to listen.
4) Distraction: I shut the laptop, walked away (I actually went to get my hair cut, it has been on my Do List all week).
5) Refocus: I put some BIG tunes on the car stereo and allowed myself to sing.
The result: The idea for this blog popped into my mind as I was driving and I really loved it. By the time I parked the car I even had the flow of it worked out in my head. My internal dialogue was also being realistic about the earlier statements thinking things like, 'so what if others are better, just focus on being you' and 'they probably feel exactly the same sometimes too.' By the time I sat in the chair at the hairdressers I was feeling much better. When I came back this blog just flowed.
Sometimes we work too hard on something and the outcomes seems to drift further and further away. Worse than that our internal dialogue knows how to hurt us most and starts having a party in your head.
You are not at the mercy of your brain, you just don't know how to use it effectively so unwittingly let it get on with it. Try the Tool Kit out and make it work for you. Take back control and you may be amazed at how quickly you can feel better.
If you'd like more practical mindset tools you can use, join me at my monthly Break Free, Find Clarity sessions. These are for all business owners and are an opportunity to break free from the day-to-day demands of running your business and join a community of like-minded people to learn and grow together.
Hope this helps and let me know how you get on.