This got me thinking who steals your confidence?
Suspect 1 - It was Nature:
Maybe some people are born with confidence and some people are not. The problem with this is science has proven that this isn't the case. Although some people are born with personality types which are more susceptible to confidence problems you are neither born with or without confidence, it's something which is created over time.
Suspect 2 - Experience stole it:
Over the years experiences have shaped the way you understand the world and when something triggers a particular part of your evidence library you react by losing confidence. Now this to me sounds more likely. If you want to know more about your Evidence library there's a whole video about it in my free Video series click on the green box on the right to access it.
Suspect 3 - It was you:
I don't know about you but I can be my own worst enemy, once that little confidence issue creeps in my Mr Niggles has a field day and it comes up with some awful things. (I wrote more about Mr Niggles in this blog). Some of my personal favourites are: 'I can't do this', 'I'm not good enough', 'why do you even bother', I know lovely aren't they!!! So, maybe we are the ones who steal our own confidence?
Personally I think suspect two and three are working in cahoots. Your experience lays down the groundwork and then your head sticks in the knife. Then bam....down goes the confidence. And if the job is done really well in creeps the fear so we never have to experience it again.
I love teaching people how to overcome this vicious cycle by giving them a toolbox of techniques to spring clean the library and tackle that inner voice. Techniques which I use throughout my life and have helped me to say yes, instead of an immediate no.
What are your thoughts? Who steels your confidence and have you got any pearls of wisdom which you can share? I'd love to hear them.
Until next time